The fact that you are in love...

...doesnt serve as a reason for being loved.
/Or as I have first read it: "Hogy szerelems vagy, az nem ok arra, hogy szeressenek"/

'But why do I love him/her then?'- is a simple question noone can avoid coming across if maintaining a friendship. Most people expect a simple (because s/he has given you all of this..or is a good person..ect) type of praises..in even worse cases they ecpect that me -as an outsider - out of sheer firnedhip will glorify someone:
a) i do not know well
b) i am clearly not in love with
c) probably see as a 'normal creature' with mistakes ect.

Now: Do we actually need a reason to love someone?
During my somewhat hectic studies (somewhere in-between family-therapy-feminism-and the application of the /in/famous Rorschach test) someone tried to convince me of the following:

If in a realtionship when one is asked 'Honey, why do you love me?'- the answer is: because you make me feel good => we can be sure that the love (that basterd) feels is EGOISTIC.
Instead if s/he manages to nominate a lot of characteristics of yours that make you unique in her/his eyes=> well you can be sure that the love (that darling)feels for you is real.

Hmm. It brings into my mind the folk tale about the king and his three daugthers..but more precisely.. the story of King Lear. Did Cornelia love her father less just because, instead of bragging about his fantastic nature ect ect, she tried to sum up her love for him in as few words as possible?

Should love be summed up? Isnt all love we feel egoistic? I mean what sort of love whould make you feel bad? Isnt the fact that your sheer presence may make another person feel good about him/herself enough to make one feel happy?

I would rather agree with Marquez (although maybe it wasnt even him from whom the following words stem) who once said:
"I don't love you for who you are,
I love you for who I become when i'm with you."

Returning to the beginning that is feeling love as not a 'reason' for being loved...
i don't know. i still think you have to be anyone great or fantastic or supersexy to be loved. you just simply have to exist...anyone who exists is given love.

Are you a sceptic? => Watch Björk...:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EjAoBKagWQA